As the name of this post suggests, I want to talk today about my feelings towards the concept of devoted time within a family.
I think everyone can agree that families who spend time with one another are generally happier and closer than those who don’t. Why is that? Simply enough, it is because when we spend time with each other, we develop relationships and express love.
Time Develops Relationships
It seems like a simple concept, doesn’t it? The more time you spend with someone, the closer you will be with them. It appears we can stop here and say no more concerning the topic.
Or can we?
Have you ever spent a lot of time around someone that you learned nothing about or developed no relationship with? I think we all have. Whether it has been a group partner in school, a co-worker, or a number of other individuals. There are even family who spend time together who don’t always develop the relationship we should be striving for. So what is the root of it really just spending time together. Can we assume if you spend four [or two, or six, or ten] hours a day [or week, or month] with someone, you will automatically develop a relationship with them? Not at all.
As the title of the blog post suggests, that time has to be devoted time. I have spent countless hours around co-workers and learned nothing about their life. I have also spent minimal time with individuals and learned a lot about them. The amount of time we devote to a relationship will be the determining factor for whether or not that relationship is developed. So— maybe every now and again— put down the phone, turn off the TV, and go do something. Go walk around the park or play a board game. Not that technology is the root of all evil or anything, but devoted time means time without distraction. It’s not only healthy, but helpful.
Devoted Time Expresses Love
When we are able to put away the phones and tablets, turn off the TV, or even put down the book, and spend time with someone, it shows them we truly value that relationship. I think of it this way.
In our life, the most precious currency we posses is one we cannot control. We cannot get it back or check our balance, and there is no return policy. That currency is time. Each of us has a limited time on this earth, and we don’t know how much time we are given. When we, therefore, give that time to someone else through a devoted, dedicated action, we express that they are valuable enough to us that we are willing to spend (note the interesting word choice) that time with them.
As it is commonly said, when we come to the end of life, we will not wish we had spent more time in traffic or at the office. We would not want to have spent more time watching the game or arguing with the neighbor. We will look back and wish to have spent more time with the ones we love. Take the time now, I promise you won’t regret it.
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